Mental health: it’s ok to talk.

spaggyroe

Man Flu Survivor
Location
Lehi
Sorry to hear this @Greg
I lost my dad when I was 40, and my mom a year and a half after that.
It's been years now and it's still weird. It still feels like the phone could ring at any moment with one of them being on the other end.

Side note to all my RME friends (and even you assholes).
Don't smoke. If you do smoke, quit.
You have no idea how that will eventually impact those around you.
My folks were neat people and I would've loved to have even a few more years with them.
 

STAG

No longer on a beach
Location
Pleasant Grove
Both my parents have smoked since they were 13. My mom about 1.5-2 packs a day, my dad about 1-1.5, but my dads health is significantly worse than my moms.

I’ve already been mentally preparing myself for that terminal call. My uncle (dad’s little brother) died 3 years ago from lung cancer. You’d think that would have had some influence on my dad wanting to quit, but no.
 

Kevin B.

Big hippy
Location
Stinkwater
If you do smoke, quit.

Best thing I ever did for myself.

You’d think that would have had some influence on my dad wanting to quit, but no.

I bet it does, dude. I walked out the back door and caught my two year old pretending to smoke one of the butts I'd left on the ground. Shook me for days, but it was still a couple more years before I managed to quit. It's just amazingly hard for some people, and your folks may have tried and tried and tried and have given up. I bet they'd still love to quit, if they saw a path - positive encouragement can help.

So can Wellbutrin. I think without that support I'd probably still be smoking.
 

TRD270

Aloha’n MF
Location
SaSa Sandy
Best thing I ever did for myself.



I bet it does, dude. I walked out the back door and caught my two year old pretending to smoke one of the butts I'd left on the ground. Shook me for days, but it was still a couple more years before I managed to quit. It's just amazingly hard for some people, and your folks may have tried and tried and tried and have given up. I bet they'd still love to quit, if they saw a path - positive encouragement can help.

So can Wellbutrin. I think without that support I'd probably still be smoking.

I used to steal my roommate in the Army's cigarettes, then i'd charge him $0.25 a piece to get one back. He eventually quit. Now I just threaten people I know with violence.
 

jeeper

Currently without Jeep
Location
So Jo, Ut
Today is one year since the start of this thread, and a sad anniversary for myself and some neighbors.
Thanks to all of you for the continuing support of each other, the openness, the willingness to talk, the willingness to admit shortfalls. I think it has been a very positive year for mental health here.
 

nnnnnate

Well-Known Member
Location
WVC, UT
My brother asked me and my wife last week to care for their kids should anything happen to him and his wife. The hard part is he has a big tumor (non cancerous) on his pituitary. He had surgery on it last year but it's grown back bigger than before and it's causing him vision issues and a mess of other problems.

He's working to schedule another operation but it's taking a toll. It took him a really long time to recover from the last one. He's got 4 kids from 15 to 9 years old. He just turned 41.

I don't know how to console him. I don't know what to say or what to talk about. It's got me thinking back to a few years ago when my uncle had cancer and ended up bed ridden in a hospital for a few months before passing. My dad would go sit with him almost every day and they'd talk about how things were and how they had hoped things would turn out.

I think what's hard about this is that my brother has done everything the right way and has this tumor. I've done things, much less right, and I'm looking in from the other side. I guess it's the bad things happening to good people age old question.
 

Medsker

2019 Jeep Wrangler Rubicon
Location
Herriman, UT
Well, I'm out of the hospital. They got away with only having to take about 20% of the kidney so that's great news. The pain level is much higher than I thought it would be. I figured I'd be fine in a week or two but I can hardly move right now. Luckily I have an adjustable bed so that helps for getting in and out of bed but I still don't dare to sit into a recliner without the fear I'll never get out. Mentally it's very draining but I'm hanging in there. Thanks for all the happy thoughts everyone!
 

Hickey

Premium Member
Supporting Member
Well, I'm out of the hospital. They got away with only having to take about 20% of the kidney so that's great news. The pain level is much higher than I thought it would be. I figured I'd be fine in a week or two but I can hardly move right now. Luckily I have an adjustable bed so that helps for getting in and out of bed but I still don't dare to sit into a recliner without the fear I'll never get out. Mentally it's very draining but I'm hanging in there. Thanks for all the happy thoughts everyone!
Good news, sir! Kidneys are jerks!
 
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